Strengthen your relationship with yourself.

Many people come to individual therapy at Integrative Couples Therapy when their relationship feels stuck, but their partner is not ready for couples therapy. Others are facing difficult decisions about whether to stay in the relationship or end it. Some are healing from betrayal and need space to process what happened. Most of our clients want to get better at relationships and to have a more connected and fulfililng life.

If you are here, you care about your relationships and your personal wellbeing. You may feel alone in wanting things to change, unsure about what to do next, or overwhelmed by emotions you do not fully understand. At the same time, you are looking for clarity, growth, and a way forward.

At Integrative Couples Therapy, we provide individual therapy for people who are working on their relationships and themselves. We create a supportive and psychologically safe space where you can explore what is happening in your relationship, understand your own responses and needs, and make choices that align with your values.

Our Approach

We are a team of relationship specialists with training in Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy and attachment-based work. Our focus is on helping you understand yourself more deeply, particularly in the context of your relationships. We pay attention to the patterns that show up in how you connect, protect yourself, and respond to others, and we help you understand how those patterns formed.

In therapy, you will work to uncover what keeps pulling you into the same conflicts or distance, and to find new ways of responding that are more aligned with who you really are. We attend to both the emotional and practical aspects of your life, so the changes you make feel meaningful and sustainable.

What to Expect from Individual Therapy

At Integrative Couples Therapy you will find individual therapy to be emotionally safe, focused, and collaborative. Your therapist will not judge you or tell you what to do. Instead, they will help you understand yourself, your relationship, and your patterns more clearly so that you can move forward with intention.

You will have space to:

• Understand the patterns that keep you stuck in your relationship

• Work on your relationship even when your partner is not attending couples therapy

• Explore difficult decisions about your relationship with clarity and care

• Heal from infidelity, betrayal, or other relationship wounds

• Understand your attachment style and how early experiences shape how you connect today

• Learn to balance big emotions and behaviors and respond in ways that feel more intentional

• Gain clarity about your needs, values, and what you want for your future

Sessions are typically fifty minutes and are available in person at our Encinitas office or virtually throughout California. Many people begin with weekly sessions, and we will work together to find a rhythm that supports your goals.

Who We Work With

Individual therapy may be a good fit if you are experiencing any of the following:

• You want to work on your relationship but your partner is not ready for couples therapy

• You are considering separation or divorce and need space to explore this decision

• You are healing from infidelity, whether you were betrayed or unfaithful

• You struggle with big emotions, big behaviors, or you shut down in relationships

• You want to understand your attachment patterns and how they affect your relationships

• You keep ending up in the same painful relationships and want to understand why

We welcome all individuals regardless of relationship status, gender identity, sexual orientation, or background. Our therapists are LGBTQ plus affirming and experienced in working with clients from a wide range of cultural and relational contexts.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can individual therapy really help my relationship if my partner will not come?

Yes. Individual therapy can create meaningful change in your relationship even when your partner is not involved. When you shift how you show up and respond differently, the dynamic between you often begins to shift as well. Many people find that their individual work opens the door for their partner to eventually join them in couples therapy.

What if I am not sure whether I want to stay in my relationship?

Individual therapy is an excellent place to explore this question. We will not tell you what to do, but we will help you gain clarity about what you need, what matters most to you, and what your options are. Therapy can help you move toward a choice that feels right for you, whether that means staying and working on the relationship or leaving with intention and care. Or, it can help you create inner peace and acceptance.

How long will I need individual therapy?

This depends on your goals and what you are working on. Some people come to therapy for several months to work through a specific issue or decision. Others choose to stay longer to continue growing and understanding themselves. Your therapist will check in regularly to ensure the work is aligned with your goals.

Next Steps

Whether your relationship feels strained, you are facing a difficult decision, or you simply want to understand yourself better, individual therapy can help you find clarity and move forward with confidence. When you are ready to take the next step, we are here to support you. Contact us to get started, and we will help match you with the therapist who is the best fit for your needs.