The decision to divorce, whether it came slowly over time or arrived all at once, is never just about ending a romantic relationship. It is about grieving the life you thought you would share and the loss of your family. It is about feeling the ground shift beneath your feet while still trying to show up for your children, your responsibilities, and yourself.

You might be overwhelmed and exhausted. You may be unsure how to talk to your partner or coparent without anger, defensiveness or shutting down. There may be hurt, resentment, or disappointment sitting just beneath the surface that boils up each time you see your partner or coparent. At the same time you have a child or children that you both love deeply. To your children, you are still their parents, even if your family life will look different now. This is what makes the shift from romantic partners to coparents so complex: the intimacy is ending, but your relationship is not. You are no longer married, but you will always be connected as parents. There will be sporting events, birthdays, graduations, and weddings to attend, as exes.

At Integrative Couples Therapy, we support couples who are navigating this incredibly tender transition. We offer a space to process the emotions that come up, whether you are in couples therapy or individual therapy, and help you begin the important work of redefining your relationship. Despite the emotional pain you may feel, you need to find a way to work together. Your children need to see that even in the midst of change, the two people they rely on most are still a team.

We help you learn the skills no one prepares you for in this stage of life. This may mean finding new ways to communicate so that important conversations do not spiral into conflict, or practicing emotional regulation so that you can respond thoughtfully rather than react in anger or withdrawal. It may mean rediscovering your own sense of self after years of being defined as a spouse, while also holding space for the role of coparent. We walk with you as you begin to rebuild and help you move forward with steadiness, compassion, and clarity.

We can also help you talk through the big things such as how to navigate parenting differences, divide responsibilities, and make decisions with your children’s best interests at heart. And we support you through the quieter things: the moments that bring up old wounds, the loneliness of shared holidays, and the fears that surface when you imagine future partners or blending families.

You are not expected to have it all figured out. But it is possible to move through this with clarity, care, and mutual respectful interactions. If you are separating or divorcing and want support as you begin this new chapter as coparents, for your children, we are here to support you. Your relationship is changing, but the way you show up for each other, and your family, matters deeply.